Blog

Your Cure: An HIV Anthem For Everyone

Your Cure (Company) from MerceTheSeries on Vimeo. Last September I had the privilege of going up to Brooklyn to play a cameo role in Merce, Season 2. I remember the first time I heard about Charles and Tyne's web series, they were fundraising for season 1 and they had...

read more

Grieving Las Vegas

The airport was quiet. My partner, Gwenn, and I were leaving Las Vegas on a Monday, always preferable to the chaos of a Sunday departure when everyone is heading back home to the normalcy of their everyday lives. But the stillness of yesterday's trip was different....

read more

Why I Love Charlottesville and Hate Hate

You have probably heard about the recent happenings in Charlottesville, Virginia, where a "Unite the Right" gathering of neo-nazis and white supremacists ended—to the surprise of few—with the intentional murder of an anti-hate, civilian protester. I want to write...

read more

32 Years Ago: A Ryan White Milestone

Jeanne White-Ginder visited her son, Ryan's, grave this week and posted this picture to Facebook. Friday, June 30, 1985 marked 32 years to the day when Ryan was denied admittance into Middle School because of his HIV status. It's a moment that changed his life and his...

read more

#DoingIt National HIV Testing Day

Gwenn and I are proud to be a part of the CDC's Act Against AIDS campaign, "Doing It", which is all about HIV testing. As a sero-diverse (poz/neg) couple, we think it's important for everyone to know their HIV status. We enjoy a healthy relationship and we feel that...

read more

Annie Lennox on HIV Prevention and Funding Needs

Last month Gwenn and I had the privilege of speaking about HIV education and prevention on Al Jazeera's The Stream, representing sero-discordant couples. Annie Lennox and activists from around the world were on hand to discuss the need for continued funding of HIV...

read more

Happy Blogiversary (20 Years!), Steve Schalchlin!

When I decided to open up about HIV 20 years ago, I went online hoping to find the internet that exists today. My search for HIV websites yielded a handful of results- one of them was Steve Schalchlin's "Living in the Bonus Round". 20 years ago, today, he put up his...

read more

Outliving the Reagans

  Today I went to the dentist for a routine teeth cleaning. I wasn't psyched about it, mainly because of the bleeding that can occur afterwards. Minor stuff, it's just that I prefer the taste of my daily iced mocha without a splash of plasma. I filled out my...

read more

Q&A About “Doing It” with CDC

As many of you know, we are a part of Doing It - CDC's new national HIV testing campaign. There was a lot more that went into creating the campaign than you might think, like finding real people (like us!) who are passionate about testing and want to share their story...

read more

#MartinShkreli: From Checkmate to Inmate?

Santa Poz has bestowed a wondrous gift upon us this holiday season. This week Martin Shkreli was arrested on charges of fraud unrelated to the Daraprim price hike that delivered Martin into our public consciousness with all the warmth of a fart in a crowded elevator...

read more

Magnetic (Serodiscordant) Couples on TV

As someone who is HIV positive and in a relationship with someone who is HIV negative, I was excited to hear that a serodiscordant (“magnetic”) couple was going to be included in season 4 of Shuga, the fictional series based on real world experiences with HIV. Femi is...

read more

#DoingIt for #HIV Testing

Gwenn and I are proud to take part in the CDC's Act Against AIDS campaign, "Doing It". This is all about HIV testing- to have a healthy relationship, each partner should know their HIV status. The only wrong result when it comes to an HIV status is a "?". So get...

read more

The Secret Sex Lives of Emojis- EXPOSED!

This World AIDS Day, MTV Staying Alive has exposed the secret sex lives of emojis in this shocking video: VIEWER DISCRETION IS ADVISED. Well, it's no secret that emojis have been repurposed for sexting. But now, you don't need to do that anymore. To get some sweet...

read more

Before I Die

Before I die... before I die I want to experience something I never have: life without hemophilia. I had a decade without HIV, and I'd like to enjoy as many years as possible on the tail end of this journey without it as well. As I stood in front of this wall in...

read more

Enter the… Blood Mirror!

It's Halloween season- and that means that a lot of fake blood is being used for cheap scares. But what shouldn't be scary? Blood donations from the gay community.And that's exactly why the art exhibit, Blood Mirror, was created. Using nine blood donations from gay,...

read more

Back to the Future Day

So today is the day- the infamous day of the future highlighted in Back to the Future. October 21, 2015. I saw the movie in the theater, and just rewatched the film last month. It still holds water! Now, we don't have flying cars as predicted by the franchise, but...

read more

Judd Winick: The Hero Who Crashed The Real World

I've written extensively about how much The Real World San Francisco influenced me- you know, the season of MTV's reality show that featured Pedro Zamora and his life with HIV. I wasn't talking about HIV openly when that aired in 1994. I loved seeing Pedro meet new...

read more

A Month of Superheroes: Ryan White

Today marks the 25th anniversary of the Ryan White CARE Act. This federal program has provided so many services to the HIV/AIDS community. Much thanks goes to Ryan White, who passed to spirit in 1990, and his mother Jeanne for their role in changing the way people...

read more

A Month of Superheroes: John Oliver

The new issue of POZ is out, entitled "Suppression Superheroes". You can check it out by clicking here. Inspired by this issue, I want to spend the next month highlighting some folks who I deem to be superheroes among us. They'll range from people I've met in flesh in...

read more

Merce- Original HIV Comedy Series!

Now that 40 has sunk in, and I have recovered from my birthday festivities, I wanted to post an entry about one of my favorite new things: Merce! It's so over-the-top campy and kind-hearted, with a story that is centered around the middle-aged Merce, an HIV positive...

read more

Stephen Gendin, 15 Years Later

(This blog post was originally published on August 1, 2010. Today marks 15 years since Stephen passed. - SD) --------------------------- Ten years ago I was getting a few emails from a friend about a special party for a positoid pal who "wasn't doing too well".  But I...

read more

The Big 4-0 is Here!

Today I turned 40. In 1975, I came into the world around 1:23 AM. That's a guesstimate. No one was looking at the clock the moment I was born. The family doctor was smoking. My parents had already gone through the birth of one son- two years later they were doing it...

read more