SHOCKER: Red Ribbon Worn At Golden Globe Awards
January 16, 2012
Yes, you read that right- an actor of prominence wore a red ribbon on his suit jacket at the Golden Globe Awards on Sunday night. Before I laud praise, I gotta say that it was wonderful to see one of those little suckers. Really. I paused the screen to inspect it, I was so excited.
Back in the 1990s, actors routinely wore red ribbons to award shows to express their solidarity with the plight of those living with HIV. But once treatments became available to those in privileged areas of the world, the red ribbons started to disappear. By the end of the 90s the red ribbons had gone the way of the parachute pants, deemed unworthy to enter the new millennium. So big ups to the one and only Steve Buscemi, who continued his tribute to the 90s by losing a Best Actor Award in the TV Series to Kelsey Grammer.
If there’s ever a ribbon made for actors who lose acting awards to Grammer, I’m wearing one in your honor, Steve.
Positively Yours,
Shawn
Video Tip of the Day: Check Your Meds
January 8, 2012
When Gwenn and I went to pick up my HIV medications, I made a video update in the car that was intended to be a joke of sorts about how long it can take to pick up meds. Then when we got home, and I made another video about what we discovered about my medication that wasn’t so funny. Check out the videos, particularly the second one below. If you don’t like Vlogs- then here’s a spoiler: one of my drugs was in the wrong pill bottle. That’s why it’s very important for anyone who takes medication to know what their pills look like, and what they are called.
Positively Yours,
Shawn
Ryan White Would Have Turned 40 Today
December 6, 2011
Ryan White, the AIDS educator who rose to prominence after his public battle to attend public school in the 1980′s, passed to spirit at age 18 in 1990, years before treatments were successful. Had he lived, he would have turned 40 years old today.
We all owe this ageless icon a big thanks for all the awareness he raised in his short time with us. Ryan, you are not forgotten. (Here’s my Poz article, “Remember Ryan White”, from Sept 2010.)
Positively Yours,
Shawn
HIV Positive Student Denied by Private Boarding School
December 5, 2011
The Milton Hershey School, a private boarding school that provides an educational opportunity for disadvantaged teenagers, has denied a potential student based solely on his HIV status. A lawsuit has been filed, and the story was given legs due to the lawsuit’s timing- which was filed last week the day before World AIDS Day.
CNN picked up the story and interviewed the boy’s lawyer.
The school released a statement explaining that they have to be concerned with the health of the rest of their students, explaining that sexual activity does occur on their premises and that 1,800 students would be put at risk. On Twitter and on Facebook, former students of Milton Hershey are coming to the school’s defense. It’s much like home team sports fans, who’s only loyalty to a team is the fact they were born in the city the team plays out of. Some of the former students responses are so short-sighted: that the school can’t be wrong because they learned there. The most laughable thing I saw on Twitter was someone posting that everyone is stupid to be up in arms about the school’s decision, to the effect of, “It’s not just a school- students have to LIVE there!”
It’s not risky. This student is not a threat. The school’s concern speaks volumes about their lack of sexual education on the premises. There is a fear of teenage behavior that is quite revealing, it’s almost as if they are saying that teens are out of control and it’s just too risky to have someone with HIV around. It’s very sad. Of course I can relate to the boy because of my own experience of being denied schooling because of my HIV status. Even though his identity is anonymous at this point, the story is out there and I hope it’s not too traumatizing for him.
My hope is that the Milton Hershey School accepts the science of the situation and changes their position. It would be a great learning experience for an institution that has provided such for so many. It’s not too late- they could not only educate their current students about sexual health in the process, but also educate their former students on the virtues of compassion and the reality that we are all capable of making errors in judgement.
And correcting them.
Positively Yours,
Shawn
Home for the… Holiday?
November 30, 2011
Tomorrow is World AIDS Day. Aside from two years ago- when I got sick while out on the road during World AIDS Week and had fly home instead of across the country- I haven’t really been home on World AIDS Day in any shape or form to enjoy it in about a decade. Today I’m about to get a plane and head off with Gwenn, and do my best to share my insights on living with HIV in the hopes of raising awareness and compassion, but tomorrow?
I’ll be home by 1 pm. And I plan to chillax. Going to go see the Muppets movie. Definitely going to have an iced mocha beforehand. I know World AIDS Day isn’t a holiday- just like living with HIV isn’t a holiday. But since I started talking about my HIV status openly, it’s become a work day for me, because it’s a small window from which many will gaze through for one day. So much information, which is always circulating, will be taken in.
But this year? I’m kicking back.
Have a safe, healthy and happy World AIDS Day!
Positively Yours,
Shawn
#GetBetterEthan Support HIV/AIDS in NYC Marathon
November 3, 2011
The crappy news of the week is that Ethan Zohn’s cancer has returned. Many of you may know Ethan from Survivor Africa, the reality show that he won a million dollars on and then used the money to start an HIV/AIDS awareness organization called Grassroot Soccer.
I blogged a bit about Ethan’s cancer diagnosis in 2009- I named him my Person of the Year that year as well. Up until then, I’d used the Person of the Year as a gag of sorts… but when Ethan was diagnosed with cancer, well, his health was all I could think about. The AIDS community has far too few heroes to lose. Through his initial triumph due to a stem cell transplant that saw him living in a bubble, he opened up his medical ordeal to educate others about the disease. He’s a hero to lots of people- I’ve met him several times, he’s good people and I consider him a friend.
And this week I’ve been extremely saddened by this news. I know Ethan’s a fighter- he’s a healthy guy aside from his pet cancer- and he’ll do everything he can to knock cancer back on its ass. The process if grueling, it’s one he’s already been through and now it faces him again. On Wednesday, he went public with the news, and Jenna posted on Twitter about it. The hashtag #GetBetterEthan was reposted by thousands of people.
As many of us know personally, health challenges can often be private affairs. Even the healthiest among us hate to admit when a cold has exerted its will. Any reminder of our vulnerability, or even mortality, offers a knee-jerk reaction. Defiance. At a base level, none of us want to think about our inevitable deaths. But when we bond over our concern, and share the treatment process, the coping, the victories and the defeats, it makes us stronger as a whole.
I’m really hopeful for Ethan. I’m sending all my positoid vibes his way. He’s been a true godsend to the AIDS community. In the grand picture, he’s given people with cancer so much inspiration… hell, in the midst of receiving all of this news about his immediate future and the impending treatments, he’s still going to run in the NYC Marathon this weekend to raise money for Grassroot Soccer.
I just donated- I hope you consider doing the same.
Positively Yours,
Shawn
PS… “EZFC” = Ethan Zohn Fuck Cancer. :O)
A Massage With An Unhappy Ending
November 1, 2011
Halloween has come and gone. I had a great one this year- saw my friends’ new band, Brighter Fires, have their first show at a house party that included the obligatory visit by the police. So funny, I had a can of beer in my hand and set it down when the car rolled in, even though I’m 36. I haven’t been to a house party since high school, so it was just my natural reaction.
Another highlight was helping my Goddaughter make her first jack-o-lantern, and taking her out with Gwenn and her mother to go trick-or-treating on the campus of UVa. Oh, and I also got to rewatch my favorite Halloween movie of all-time, The Monster Squad, complete with a drink I invented called “Wolfman’s Nards”, which is basically a white russian with two Lindt chocolate balls dropped into it. (Gotta see the movie to get the name of the drink.)
Anyway, November is here, but the scares for people living with HIV don’t end with the festive pagan holiday rituals. My friend, Sonya, just blogged about an unhappy ending for a Massage Envy patron who is HIV positive. Basically, the masseuse used rubber gloves to perform the massage. Can you imagine how awful that must have been, going in for a relaxing massage only to be reminded of your HIV status and how scared some people are to even touch you?
Here’s to hoping that this Massage Envy in Houston gets their act together. It’s just another reason why comprehensive HIV education is needed- the issue is not just about sexual health, it’s about creating an environment that isn’t filled with panic. We’ve come a long way in 30 years, but there are still so many people who don’t have a clue about how HIV is and isn’t transmitted.
Positively Yours,
Shawn
The End of AIDS Will Come
October 28, 2011
The current issue of Poz has a compelling cover- a red ribbon with a big black “X” through it. The cover story is written by Regan Hofmann, who astutely observes: “Having 27.3 million people with HIV globally (about 1 million of them in America) remain untreated with existing drugs that can save their lives and prevent AIDS from spreading is a humanitarian crime of epic proportion. It’s also no way to stop the AIDS pandemic.”
Amen to that.
I recently posted the following on Facebook, which garnered some inspired Likes from my Facebook friends: “” Yes, I just quoted myself. I’m used to HIV in my life- but I am more than happy to see it go. And I view every prevention of HIV through education as a cure. I wish I could touch people on the forehead, say a few kind words, and cure them of HIV. But I do the next best thing- I’m open about my experiences with HIV and I give people free condoms whenever I can.
Science will undoubtedly topple this virus. In the meantime, us humans have to band together to make life easier for those who are already living with HIV while we offer our own “cures” to those who are at risk of transmitting the virus.
Positively Yours,
Shawn
life in photos
I am frightened by ceilings. A terrible phobia to have.
Today's assortment of treats: tea for Gwenn, a mocha for me and a cookie to share.
My buddy Sharanya preparing my mocha with just an extra dash of love.
Hanging on wall in our guest bedroom. Couldn't agree more!
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