Can You Tell By Looking? PosorNot.com
April 30, 2008
Some people think they can tell someone has HIV by looking at them. It’s a big myth, and the folks at www.mtvu.com have done something about it. Check out their new site, PosOrNot.com, which features positoids (HIV positive folks) and negatoids (HIV negative folks) and a guessing game.
If you scroll through long enough, you might see my handsome mug. If you guess wrong, then you haven’t been paying much attention to this blog. Here’s a clue…
Positively Yours,
Shawn
Reverend Wright & Wrong
April 29, 2008
Parts of Virginia were hit by tornadoes yesterday, injuring over 200 people. My thoughts go out to any fellow Virginians in the areas affected south of Williamsburg.
I’ve been a little out of touch since getting back from L.A., writing away in my secret bunker locales. Not only have I been away from the blog, but I’ve also been out of touch with the fam. Last night, my bro called me on it- it being the telephone. “Hey brother, it’s your brother- haven’t heard from you in awhile, just making sure you’re still alive.” I sometimes forget that writers with AIDS can only disappear for so long when going into seclusion, before people start to get worried.
I called him back- he was bowling. He’s not worried about me anymore.
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In terms of AIDS and politics, I have to say I’m worried about Obama’s former minister, Reverend Wright. The infamous Wright quote, “God damn, America!”, is the one that gets all the attention, but what bugs me is the recent interviews, and how Wright said Obama is just “doing what politicians do.” He’s giving all the wrong soundbites, and now it’s McCain, Hillary and Obama’s former pastor, all piling on.
Personally, I think the 37 he scored in bowling triggered all of this, but that’s just my crackpot theory.
Most have seen the videos of the Rev., ranting and raving. Below is a video you may not have seen yet…
Reverend Wright getting an HIV test.
In it, Wright mentions that young, heterosexual African American women are the leading group of people being infected by HIV. What he didn’t mention is that it is the leading cause of death among that group as well.
I support Obama, because I sincerely believe that he would be progressive in his handling of the HIV/AIDS epidemic, not only in the United States- where he supports condoms in prisons- but abroad as well, where many of the U.S.’s well-meaning, misguided policies have reversed successful anti-HIV campaigns. (Uganda being one.) Just the other day, McCain said Obama was out of touch with poor people. Well, McCain is out of touch with people with AIDS. He didn’t know, as of last year, whether a condom helps prevent transmission.
HIV/AIDS would not be at the top of President McCain’s agenda.
As for Reverend Wright, he is playing a very dangerous game with the media. He can laugh, and grab the headlines with zingers, and soak up the spotlight, damaging Obama in the process. Whether that damage is justified doesn’t matter. Damage is damage.
Positively Yours,
Shawn
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East Carolina University
April 24, 2008
Immediately after flying back to Virginia from L.A., Gwenn and I got in our car and headed down to East Carolina University… well, not exactly immediately.
The flight landed at 9 at night, but when the bus dropped us off at the economy parking, we weren’t quite sure where we parked, though we had it narrowed down to a 200-foot square radius.
Which isn’t bad really. At the first hunch, I told the bus driver to drop us off and, what do ya know, there was the car- right in our line of sight. But when we tried to use the keychain Unlock button, it didn’t work.
“We’re screwed,” Gwenn said, noticing that one of the backdoors was closed enough lock, but open enough to have let the battery die. No biggie, we called the airport and they sent a nice guy in a truck over to give us a jump.
We got to just outside of Greenville, then called it a night at the Sleep Inn. How they can call it the Sleep Inn with an 11 a.m. check out is beyond me, especially when most check outs are at noon. But again, they were nice, and we got an extra late check out- for a price- since we didn’t have to hit the road until 3 p.m.
East Carolina University brought Gwenn and I in to speak for World AIDS Day 2006, and someone asked me about the Kenneth Cole thing. See, last time we spoke there was two days before my infamous meeting with Kenneth, I remember talking to the staff about the publicity stunt when I was just an innocent, wide-eyed positoid, unknowing of what awaited me in the big bad city… But I digress. This time we did our secondary program at ECU, entitled “Bugs in the Bedroom”. It’s more of a general STI program- I don’t even disclose my HIV status until the end, as a big shocking finale. One thing that happened during the program, however, was a bit shocking. I had to retire a joke because of the sensitive nature…
See, we do these condom races, pitting two guys against two girls. It’s a race to see who can put a condom on a fake penis the fastest. The first two go, and then we talk about who was fastest and who did it correctly.
The next pair what, and I crack a joke about, “This time… we see who can put the condom on the fastest… with their mouth!” It’s a raucous joke, and usually I can tell the guy it’s a joke pretty quickly. But this gentleman in particular lost his shit. It’s not that my delivery was that good. Order was restored, and I calmed him down and assured him that wasn’t the intent. But man o’ man, for like two seconds there I thought I was going to be calling the local hemophilia chapter for some clotting factor. Overall, the program isn’t the well-oiled machine like “A Boy, A Girl, A Virus”, which is more about my relationship with Gwenn, but it is fun and educational. A well-needed boost for the condom in an age of abstinence-only education.
We just haven’t done “Bugs” as much over the years, and I sometimes forget how much shaping we did with “Boy, Girl, Virus”, where little things had to get taken out to keep the focus where it needed to be. It can’t be understated how a few fake penises- one that measures over a foot long- can turn a public speaking engagement into a potentially combustible element.
Thanks to everyone at East Carolina University for inviting us to speak, and taking sexual health on. As for taking things on, I might not be blogging for a couple of days, since I have a Monday deadline to finish the new book. So wish me luck, I hope to have some news on that front in the coming months.
Positively Yours,
Bowling for Obama
April 21, 2008
The trip to Los Angeles was incredible, but since I’m sitting in a hotel trying to get everything together, I thought I’d wait till I could upload a few pics to tell the story.
In the meantime, I have to address an issue I’ve ignored until now: Barack Obama’s bowling. Much was made of the fact that he bowling a 37. I support Obama, yet I come from a long line of bowlers. I think this could be the issue that Republicans use against him in the election.
Bowling is a sacred institution, far more important than the economy in the grand scheme of things. There is a bowling alley in the friggin’ White House, the only reason why that shit job sounds appealing to me. But I can see the political ads now, suggesting that Obama will rip up the bowling alley and replace it with a basketball court. The number 37 will be splashed on billboards all across the heartland.
But it’s not too late!
Obama is athletic, but it’s way too late to teach him how to change his form.
Positively Yours,
Shawn
Don’t forget to help my AIDS Walk NY Team defeat Kenneth Cole Productions!
Synthetic Division in Los Angeles- Tonight!
April 19, 2008
Last night I finally worked up the courage to open the box, having checked the neon Synthetic Division sign with the airlines. (UPS did a fine job packing it, the sign was safe and sound.)
And tonight is the big night! So if you are in or around Los Angeles, come see me play at the Galaxy Gallery on Melrose. Show starts at 10 p.m.
7224 Melrose Ave Los Angeles, CA 90046 Phone: (323) 938-6505 (Mid-city west!)
I wanted to get a cool pic of the sign, unplugged, with the city behind it. But all you can see is the sign and Gwenn’s bathrobe- the water in the shower went out on her. She was none to happy to accomodate in the taking of this terrible picture. (On second thought, it was a little breezy out on the patio.) We got this hotel on Priceline… room service for 2 eggs? $22! No, we didn’t get the eggs. Well, we did at a diner the next day for $1.99.
Will blog more after the show.
Positively Yours,
Shawn
In LA This Saturday
April 15, 2008
It’s true, Synthetic Division is heading to L.A. My longtime pal, Josh, whom I wrote about in My Pet Virus, is filling in for Marshall, the keyman for Synthetic Division.
Today I was being pretentious and writing at a coffee shop when Gwenn called. “Hey, I have a crazy idea- you have to talk me out of it.” I’m all for crazy ideas, so I was intrigued. “I want to get the neon sign to L.A… is that stupid?”
No! It’s not! Expensive? Probably. But hell, how many times does a boy get to play in L.A.? And what’s a Synthetic Division show without the third, unofficial member, anyway? It would be like seeing Van Halen without Roth, or Wings without McCartney, or American Idol without the magic that was Sanjaya.
It would feel so weird to sing the song “Sign” without the sign back there, glowing it’s magnificent glow.
By the way- the set is happening this Saturday, at 10 PM at The Galaxy Gallery on Melrose.
Gotta admit, I’m bummed that Steve of the Hemo2Homo Connection is traveling while I’m going to be on his stomping grounds… we could have really gone to a movie together, and talked through the whole thing because we can. Because we have AIDS and we are the H2H.
But, in all honesty, the reason for booking the trip in the first place wasn’t to ruin a movie-goer’s experience, or to rock out some synthpop on Melrose. It is to meet the guy who is currently writing the screenplay for My Pet Virus: the Movie. We’ve spoken on the phone and been in contact via email, he’s a very cool guy and I’m excited to hear what he has to say about how it’s coming along.
I just hope he’s writing with Bruce Willis in mind, that’s all. I still say that’s the only guy who can play Shawn Decker on the big (or little) screen.
Speaking of little screens, here’s so movie-making magic I’ve captured in recent months. This first vid was at the airport in Charlotte, one of modern-day times most ridiculous spectacles.
Cops on Segways are pretty awesome, huh?
Here’s a little vid of Gwenn and I at the University of Arizona back in December, when we were traveling for World AIDS Day. If the above video explains why Law Enforcement recruitment is down, the video below shows why Gwenn and I don’t have the chops to play ourselves in My Pet Virus: The Movie…
I’ll get some vid of the Synthetic Division show this Saturday to share as well. While I’m on the road, I’ll probably be micro-blogging on Twitter, which is fun because I can lazily do so from my cell. So feel free to swing by there if this post starts to get a little moldy in the next few days.
Positively Yours,
Shawn
Don’t forget to help my AIDS Walk NY Team defeat Kenneth Cole Productions! Make a small donation to help my fellow positoids. That would be incredible if My Pet Virus the movie ended with my victory over Mr. Cole.
TV: High School Confidential
April 14, 2008
Is anyone else watching this show on WE? Gwenn and I have been- it’s a documentary about teens in Kansas, producers followed 12 girls for 4 years of high school.
I’m not sure if the show is getting a lot of buzz, but as sex educators even Gwenn and I were shocked that, thus far, there have been four unplanned pregnancies. How each family dealt with the news was totally unique. Tonight, in terms of sexual decision-making, we finally saw a “happy ending”, no pun intended when Crystle waited until she was ready her senior year of high school- she was on birth control and her boyfriend used a condom. (Sorry pervs, this was only revealed in an interview by the subjects of the documentary.)
In fact, in telling her story, Crystle joked that she was worried that the candles she set up for mood were going to catch her hair on fire. With proper sex education that should be the only thing people are worried about catching during their first time.
Positively Yours,
Shawn
PS… check your local listings for airtime and channel… highly recommended viewing!
I’ll be in Los Angeles THIS Saturday, April 19, at the Galaxy Gallery on Melrose playing a Synthetic Division gig. Music starts at 10 p.m.
Thanks to Clayton State University for having us on campus to- gasp!- talk about sex! If you’d like for Gwenn and I to speak at your campus, just drop me a line.
Don’t forget to help my AIDS Walk NY Team defeat Kenneth Cole Productions! Make a small donation to help my fellow positoids.
AIDS Walk 2008: This Time It’s Personal
April 8, 2008
For two years I’ve walked/hobbled the AIDS Walk NY with Team Supersnack, a ragtag band of do-gooders from all across the United States.
Every year, it’s been a fun experience. But this year, I have a bone to pick… with Kenneth Cole. His team finished in the 16th spot, $35,884. Just beating out Supersnack, who cracked the Top 20 at number 19, with $33,091. Like Kenneth Cole Productions, Supersnack now has Gold Team status.
And I have Kenneth in my sights.
You may remember, that on World AIDS Day 2006, Gwenn and I raised awareness for HIV/AIDS with Kenneth by staging a Bed-In in his storefront window at Grand Central. I blogged about it, if you want a refresher. In short, he thought that we needed to make-out heavily for the smattering of media to get more out of the publicity stunt, and we politely declined.
Since then, our paths haven’t crossed. Until I noticed last year’s numbers… I’m thinking that, if I outraise him, I can leverage that victory into getting Kenneth to make out with his wife in the window-seat of Gwenn and I’s townhome here in Charlottesville.
Help me defeat Kenneth.
Sure, he does a lot of fundraising and awareness for HIV. But I actually have AIDS, that’s gotta count for something, right?
Positively Yours,
Shawn
Check out my music, Synthetic Division, LIVE: Saturday, April 19 in Los Angeles (The Galaxy on Melrose).
life in photos
I am frightened by ceilings. A terrible phobia to have.
Today's assortment of treats: tea for Gwenn, a mocha for me and a cookie to share.
My buddy Sharanya preparing my mocha with just an extra dash of love.
Hanging on wall in our guest bedroom. Couldn't agree more!
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